A transgender father of seven in Canada has abandoned her wife and children to live life as a little girl. “I do not want to be an adult right now,” Stefonknee Wolscht, 46, told The Daily Xtra in a video series.
Wolscht had been married for 23 years before realizing she was transgender.
She said in the series: “I can’t deny I was married. I can’t deny I have children. But I’ve moved forward now and I’ve gone back to being a child.”
Wolscht said his wife gave her an ultimatum: ‘stop being trans or leave.’ But her adoptive family, according to Wolscht, are “comfortable” with her being a little girl. Her adoptive parents’ granddaughter wanted a younger sister, a role Wolscht is now happy to fill.
After participating in the first transgender march in Toronto in 2009, Wolscht became depressed and attempted suicide, especially after her eldest daughter invited her to her wedding but told her to “dress like her dad” and not speak to any other members of the family.
Woscht’s wife also has a restraining order against her husband after accusing her of assault and harassment. Wolscht is now engaging in “play therapy” with her adoptive parents and their granddaughter, and receiving support from the transgender congregation of the Metropolitan Community Church of Toronto.
Research shows at least four in 10 transgender people have attempted suicide. That compares to around 4 percent for the general population, according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
“Often the same factors that increase suicide risk among straight peers dramatically affect trans individuals: limited social support, poverty, substance use, school avoidance, rejection by parents,” Michael Leslie, director of LGBTQ mental health at McLean Hospital in Massachusetts, told USAToday.
While Wolscht has found support outside of her biological family by reverting to a childlike state, other transgender individuals have overcome taunting and prejudice to find life partners and form new families that provide them with the support they need.
For instance, Bianca and Nick Bowser live in Louisville, Kentucky, with their two sons. Nick Bowser was born a girl named Nicole, and Bianca Bowser grew up as a boy named Jason. The two never expected to find life partners, but when they finally met and married, they decided to conceive children naturally. Nick Bowser gave both boys via C-section.
“I mean, that’s when we tell them sometimes men have babies, and sometimes mommies can’t have babies,” Nick Bowser told ABC News. “We’re telling them the truth, and I think that’s the most important thing, and in a way that they can understand.”
Transgender issues have exploded into the mainstream over the past year, notably following athlete and TV personality Caitlyn Jenner’s pronouncement that she had transitioned into a woman. Her appearance on the cover of Vanity Fair set off equal parts criticism and admiration. She was awarded the Sportsperson of the Year at the 2015 ESPYs.
But she and her wife Kris Jenner have split up. An USWeekly article from August 2015 reported that Jenner’s stepdaughters had “turned their backs” on Jenner following her big reveal.
“There’s not a lot of love for Caitlyn,” a source told the magazine.
Things have thawed since then. Still, it isn’t easy for family members to adjust, and school bullies are always an issue.
This year, Congressman Mike Honda of California tweeted support for his transgender granddaughter: “As the proud grandpa of a transgender grandchild, I hope she can feel safe at school without fear of being bullied.”
Haters are everywhere, but Wolscht is finding the support she needs, and we can only hope her biological family will follow the lead of her adoptive family.